I have all too much to say and, therefore, will say nothing.
This is a blog post to let you know I am still alive and cute, just with a few more pimples and bags under my eyes.
Often, fashion is trivialized. Those who are involved in fashion are pinned as lacking the depth necessary for other hobbies. I was made to believe that fashion was vain. Women only care how they dressed to catch the gaze of men. Fashion is just a status symbol. I even pondered if my desire to put together unique outfits was “sinful” due to a combination of loose interpretation of scripture and church modesty culture. In early high school when my love of fashion was coming into full bloom, I was embarrassed and ashamed of it.
None of these previous statements about fashion are true (at least, ninety-eight percent of the time). Some of these statements are products of a society that profits off the objectification of women. Whether or not it should be this way, fashion has been classically identified with women. Modeling and fashion are among the few industries where women have an upper hand, as queen Tyra Banks has said. This art form is about us and society shudders at the thought of women doing anything just because we want to, so they flip it around and try to distort our motives. This is where the idea that fashion is about pleasing men comes from. If they can convince us for even a moment that pleasing men is what we desire, they can sell us more insight into the male mind. Whereas, it is much harder to sell to an audience whose criteria is defined solely on personal style. The idea that any appearance decision I have made was to please men is ludicrous. I wish I had a dollar for every instance throughout my life in which I was told boys liked girls with long hair and then decided to get a haircut anyway. I’m not recommending getting a haircut out of spite, but I may have done so once or twice.
Dispelling the other misconceptions doesn’t take much. The idea that fashion is lacking depth is a statement lacking depth in itself. Do not tell me I cannot be both an honors student and a fashionista: I contain multitudes. There is a difference between loving fashion and loving shopping. Do not equate every person who is into fashion as someone with a 2003-Paris-Hilton-esque shopping addiction. It is not about spending money and it is not about having the latest trend. Many people have even moved away from the word “fashion” to focus more on “style” in order to stop being viewed as a trend-leech. It is especially hard to say that fashion-lovers are shallow when so many of us are using our platforms for activism, drawing attention to slave-labor, unfair wages, and negative effects on the environment. How can you call us shallow when we are so willingly pointing out the flaws in the industry we love, so willing to hold nuanced views and have hard conversations?
The most insecure years of my life I dressed in Nike shorts and old t-shirts. Of course, some people dress this way because that is how they are most comfortable. (Do your thing!) However, I used it as a form of camouflage. I did not want to be seen; I thought I was not supposed to want to be seen. I grew up, as many of us do, confusing insecurity with humility. Here is how I now differentiate: humility is how you view yourself in relation to others, being secure or insecure has to do with how you view yourself when no one else is around. Self-love and humility are not mutually exclusive. I thought I had to hate myself in order to think highly of others because that is what was modeled to me. I strongly believe we love others best when we learn to love ourselves (a process that takes time and is not linear, something we may all struggle with continually).
For me, fashion was and is self-love. It was a way of saying to myself, “It is okay for people to notice you. You are allowed to take up space.” I remember the first time I wore a skirt on a week-day–going somewhere that wasn’t a Sunday morning church service in a skirt was a huge deal. It was a gathered maroon skirt that I picked up from Forever 21. (Forgive me of my past sins.) I was nervous and self-conscious, constantly tugging at the hem. Simultaneous proud of myself while also hoping no one would comment on it. And yet, someone did. I remember someone asking what I was “so dressed up for.” The classic and unintentionally yet blatantly misogynistic, “What, do you have a date or something?” I replied with a line I had rehearsed in my head over and over in preparation for the impending battle ahead, “I don’t need a reason to dress up.” I may have stuttered, may not have looked the opponent in the eye. It was not a perfect battle, but it was a quiet victory. It was a step towards freedom from physical shame.
Fashion is not an inherently shallow form of art just because your body is the canvas. Art is vast. It is anything we create. Sometimes our best creation is ourselves. You are allowed to feel like a work of art. If you feel that way no matter what you wear, that’s beautiful. Sometimes we all need to dress up a bit to remind us that we are all alive, capable, and growing. We must fight self-hate in whatever ways that we can. I choose to fight with fashion.
I started off this summer by spending five days in Washington D. C. and five days in New York City. Naturally, I wanted to dress as extra as possible while being there. However, I was encouraged to only bring a carry-on and wanted to leave plenty of room for souvenirs as well. I decided to try packing a small capsule wardrobe, and this outfit is just one of many outfits I was able to form with just a few pieces.
A capsule wardrobe is a small collection of clothing in which all of the pieces can be worn together interchangeably. Some people do this for their entire wardrobe as a way of consuming less. If that’s your thing, awesome! However, for those of us who consider fashion a hobby, it is a little less feasible to do this on a daily basis. My capsule wardrobe was composed of a smaller selection of the clothes that I already owned that would fit easily into a carry-on.
Here is the break down of my capsule wardrobe: two skirts, three tops, two dresses, and one pair of shorts. It was important for me to choose light weight items and items that all fit into the same color scheme. These items make a combined total of eleven outfits. Capsule wardrobes don’t have to be boring and neutral. Accessories, like this vintage scarf from my grandma, take up almost no space. I brought lots of scarves, necklaces, and hair-clips which put a new spin on an old outfit if I decided to wear it again.
After packing all of these items, I still had an entire half of my bag empty, which I promptly filled full of vintage and thrifted items from New York. If not for your everyday wardrobe, I recommend capsule wardrobes for traveling. Less time picking out an outfit means more time for ice cream in Chinatown.
Let me know if anyone is interested in a post about my vintage shopping experience in NYC!
Summer weather recently hit the Midwest full force and I am 100% more of a person than I was before it came. I always forget how much more alive I feel in the sunshine.
I love novelty prints and bright colors no matter the season. However, I look a lot less out of place in the summer. Believe it or not, this is not the only lemon printed shirt that I own. I bought this shirt in high school, but these vintage peachy shorts were a recent Salvation Army purchase.
This girl loves to be ridiculously matchy-matchy, hence the shirt and scarf combination, so I had to grab this lemon mug at Goodwill. It was fate. Besides tied scarves, which are a personal favorite in every season, my favorite accessories for the summer are colorful barrettes. They are a simple way to add some extra color to an outfit, especially for us short-haired girls who don’t have many options for switching up hairstyles. I like stacking several colors, especially yellow, orange, and pink as they resemble a sunset. Just pick up a rainbow pack from your favorite store in the little girls’ section (no shame).
Velco sneakers are comfy, casual, and quirky. They add a silly touch to my already fairly silly outfit. Shoes always make the final decision about how casual or dressed up an outfit is, making these shoes perfect for everyday summer looks. I love to wear dresses on a daily basis and these shoes are the perfect paring to keep me from being too overdressed, if one believes in such a thing.
This is one of the first summers I won’t be spending my time in class or working. I have been blessed with a lot of opportunities to travel, which is why I have gone back to a lower maintenance hair color. I am not sure what my blogging schedule will be like, but I am excited to find more unique places to take pictures as well as just to soak up new experiences.
As an early celebration of Earth Day, I am featuring two of my favorite second-hand items: vintage clothes and used books.
Listen, I know that it is more earth friendly to read books on a Kindle but I think most book-lovers would agree that nothing beats the feeling of a physical book in your hands. Shopping at local second-hand book shops, like Always Buying Books, is the best way to keep up with my book habit without having to go electronic.
This vintage sailor dress overflows with just as much whimsy as this darling book shop. I love finding old handmade items because it is fun to imagine someone’s mom sewing her this dress just in time for spring. Both this dress and these socks were obtained while I was working for an estate sale company this past summer. An estate sale is a great place to find vintage pieces which is often overlooked. If you are up for a treasure hunt, hit one up sometime.
I just purchased these Velcro babies on Depop and I am never taking them off. If you didn’t already know, Depop is the equivalent of an online thrift store. You can sell your used clothing items or purchase other’s. These shoes are a little goofy but I love them paired with almost anything– mini dresses, jeans, shorts. They add a little bit of personality to any outfit and make me feel like a cartoon girl.
This post may be a little scatterbrained, but this is all just to say that you don’t have to give up all the things that you love in order to live a greener life. Making alterations in the way you consume and finding small ways reduce how much waste you create make a difference in the long run, whether that be buying used items or donating rather than trashing.
How do you live greener every day?
To me, this sweater is reminiscent of the children’s bible illustrations of Joseph’s coat of many colors. It’s a great statement piece to add some spunk when styling a t-shirt.
First of all, I have no idea what I am doing in this picture. Let’s move on. T-shirts! Wearing a t-shirt doesn’t have to be boring. Comfy and cute do not have to be mutually exclusive. It takes a little bit of creativity, but a casual look can have just as much personality as a more dressed up look.
If you’re going to wear a t-shirt, wear one that represents something that you’re into or that supports an organization you like. My t-shirt is from Cheap Rent, a group of OKC artists that design and print shirts. It’s quirky, comfortable, and yet a lot cuter than wearing an old church camp shirt or a shirt from one’s old high school. Lately, I’ve been into tying all my t-shirt at the waist to create a more flattering shape.
Surround your shirt with hecka cute accessories. I’m wearing this adorable pair of sneakers I bought on Depop, but, contrary to popular belief, t-shirts can definitely be worn with flats and loafers too. Don’t be scared to pair different patterns with a graphic t-shirt. I layered mine over a wide-leg denim jumpsuit. Try tucking one into a denim skirt or tying it at the waist over a dress.
Wearing a t-shirt should be playful and fun, so don’t think too hard about it. I still have tons of t-shirts from different events and camps I went to in high school, but I’ve decided recently that I am going to pick two or three shirts that are my favorite and turn the rest into dish rags. I thought it would be a fun activity for earth day, but we’ll see if I actually get around to it before the summer. Thanks to my friend Ryan from Ryality.com for taking these pictures.
Happy National Poetry month!
Over spring break I had a few spare moments to work on a small project. Sometimes I don’t have time to sew an entire dress from scratch, but I’m always making alterations on pieces that I pick up at the thrift store. Keep scrolling to see a vintage dress transformation.
Personally, I would argue that there is not necessarily anything wrong with this dress in its original form. However, the length is not very practical and the sheer amount of pattern contained in this skirt is not very wearable unless I were attending some kind of clown-prom. I loved this quirky dress, but I knew that I would not have many occasions to wear it if I kept it at this length.
I gave my six-dollar dress a chop at the finger tips. Who doesn’t love a mini dress? Now the dress is more playful and can be worn on a daily basis.
This was such a simple alteration. I just hemmed the bottom to a length that is flattering on me. There was so much fabric left over that I even made this cute lil’ matching scarf. Thrifting is so much more fruitful when you are able to sew. Instead of looking for items that are perfect, I often look for items that have potential and then make them perfect for myself.
Let me know if you guys are interested in more handmade pieces and thrift shop transformations!
Every once in a while I put on a outfit so perfect that it seems to have the supernatural ability to improve my mood by 200%. This outfit makes me feel like a sunbeam.
This darling handmade vintage dress is from Jenny’s Thrift in Oklahoma City. It is such a lovely, locally owned vintage store with the kindest owners. Stop in if you are in the area.
My adorable friend Hope gave me this woven handbag a few years ago. It is just begging to carried around with me all spring. I love woven/wicker purses; they make everything feel like a picnic.
Pastels are gorgeous, but an entirely pastel outfit can be little flat sometimes. That’s why I love the addition of this vibrant orange velvet ribbon, which I stole shamelessly from my mother’s sewing room.
Sunnier days are ahead of us, friends. Happy Good Friday.
Tulips are my favorite flower. I’ve always dreamed of frolicking through the enormous tulip farms in Holland. When in the middle of Oklahoma City, unexpectedly stumbling upon a planter of the beautiful bulbs does my heart just as well. I’m learning to bask in the glimpses of beauty around me, taking them for what they are without stealing my own wonder with comparison.
This outfit gives me serious Madeline vibes because of the hat and tie. If you did not grow up watching or reading Madeline, you seriously missed out. She is the tiny, fierce, French little girls’ empowerment icon we all deserve. This outfit has a school girl feel but with a little more adventure.
This spring I am fully embracing color. I am going to get as close as humanly possible to dressing like a clown while still feeling cute. A lot of people are scared to wear too much color because it is gaudy or attention grabbing, but it makes me feel vibrant and alive. Life is short; play dress-up as your favorite flower.
My neck tie, previously debuted on this blog as a hair tie, is a vintage piece I bought along with this super unique button down from a thrift store in Springfield, MO. (I just have to brag for a moment that they each only cost me a dollar.) My mother’s impeccable taste strikes again, as she gifted me this sunny yellow beret. The jeans are old news, but the metallic is a lot of fun and makes up for the fact that this outfit is lacking any print. Interesting textures, such as my jeans, and interesting structures, such as this scalloped collar, can add a lot to an outfit that is solely color-blocked.
My spring break was for friends, coffee, exploration of my city, and packing my heart extra full to last the rest of the semester. Once again, I have my talented friend Andrea to thank for taking these pictures and taking me to coffee shops. (This one is Clarity Coffee in OKC.)
Here is to finding our miniature tulip fields all around us.